Do this and you’ll be welcome anywhere.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. People are not interested in you. They are not interested in me. They are interested in themselves – morning, noon and after dinner. When you see a group photograph that you are in, whose picture do you look for first?
“It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.”
– Alfred Adler
If we want to make friends, let’s put ourselves out to do things for other people – things that require time, energy, unselfishness and thoughtfulness. If we want to make friends, let’s greet people with animation and enthusiasm. When somebody calls you on the telephone use the same psychology. Say “Hello” in tones that bespeak how pleased you are to have the person call.
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us.”
If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people.
*Compilation taken from “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” by Dale Carnegie